While at the grocery store the other day, I overheard a conversation. “Well, you know, I am lactose intolerant…although I still love a big glass of milk with my doughnuts…” (Okay stop thinking about doughnuts for one second. It’s hard I know.) I was more than tempted to step in and impart some crunchy mama wisdom but I refrained. Cows milk is made for calves. Not humans. So technically every human is lactose intolerant when it comes to dairy. While it does makes some tasty food, we aren’t supposed to be ingesting it, certainly not in the mass quantities we do. Human milk for human babies, cows milk for calves. In a society where breastfeeding should be a “covered” affair, and nursing past the first birthday is taboo, we certainly love our bovine breastmilk. Every store sells it by the gallons. For real? If I put my milk in a gallon jug and tried to pour it on your cereal or made ice cream out of it wouldn’t you look at me like I was nuts?! I certainly couldn’t sell in the the grocery store. People would be aghast! (This is not the time to talk about black market sales of breastmilk.) Is ice cream tasty? Yes, a big whopping yes. Oh, but if I made ice cream or a fancy gelato with my milk (which is actually bioidentical to our human bodies and much easier to digest) you would scoff at even trying a tiny spoonful. A “catch 22″ I believe…
Nine months already? January 23, 2014
Wyatt is nine months old. How in the world did that happen? I swear, it feels like only weeks ago I was sitting with Shannon Sasseville pushing on my back, and Sue Hudson pushing on my legs to alleviate my back labor. The IV that sounded like a didgeridoo. Laughing really hard about Jim gaffigan. Being terrified to the deepest depths about birthing a baby at 34w 5d. Knowing that I was able to keep him in 24 hours longer than I thought so he wasn’t a 34w 4d. Being left with the fear I did something to cause this preterm baby’s birth. Having a doula that had experienced every thing I was, was truly incredible. To have a midwife go into the NICU and tell them to listen to what I wanted to do and to take their protocol and shove it, was amazing. A husband who was with me every step and matched me tear for tear. I can’t believe this story is now a memory. Wyatt is nine months old. How in the world did that happen? I swear, it feels like only weeks ago I was sitting with Shannon Sasseville pushing on my back, and Sue Hudson pushing on my legs to alleviate my back labor. The IV that sounded like a didgeridoo. Laughing really hard about Jim gaffigan. Being terrified to the deepest depths about birthing a baby at 34w 5d. Knowing that I was able to keep him in 24 hours longer than I thought so he wasn’t a 34w 4d. Being left with the fear I did something to cause this preterm baby’s birth. Having a doula that had experienced every thing I was, was truly incredible. To have a midwife go into the NICU and tell them to listen to what I wanted to do and to take their protocol and shove it, was amazing. A husband who was with me every step of the way, and matched me tear for tear. I can’t believe this story is now a memory…
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“In my next life…” January 15, 2014
In my “next life” I aspire to be a doula. I mean that as in, life with older children. I really believe that is my calling in life. Quite literally to assist a laboring mother as she births her infant. To witness such an ever present miracle. A woman can create a person with her body, then birth that person with her body, and nourish that person with her body. I wish more people were as awe struck with that sequence. It is amazing in the truest sense of the word.
Whats your “next life” plan?
Haunted. December 25, 2013
My baby is eight months old. How did that happen? I feel like our life is in fast forward and I occasionally get a summary of what has happened. I birthed him in April. I am still living in April. I am still living breath to breath, in April. I am still so haunted by April. At 30 weeks I wrote a post about how I felt this ominous situation approaching, not knowing what was to come. What I wrote to you in that post, I had never felt, or been scared of, during my first pregnancy. It turned out to be the worst kind of foreshadowing. The kind that rocks you. The terrifying type. I had no idea while I was writing that post I would bring him earthside just four weeks later. Four. With nine days in the NICU. I spent those nine days counting every droplet and ounce of my milk. And counting every droplet and ounce he ate. I was trying to be a mom in a world where only numbers and science matters. “Nursing on-demand” is crazy talk and by golly you WILL follow the schedule. My baby is healthy now with no developmental delays. He is a healthy weight and height. He is a happy boy. But a mamas heart bears all wounds. It is scarred by past battles, but never forgets what it is like to be “in the trenches”. Our story has such a happy ending, we did not lose him and he is surpassing his full-term comrades. So….why am I still haunted?
DIY raw & organic body butter December 16, 2013
I have had a love of skin indulgent products, well, for as long as I can remember. I used to covet certain body lotion and shower gel stores that usually appear in the malls (and shall remain nameless, but you know a few I’m suggesting…). HOWEVER, I am as you already know an avid label reader. If you are a store that makes skin products, then why all the yucky extra junk added in? I’m no longer such a fan. Now that I have two sensitive skinned babies of my own I have turned to more direct tactics. Whole. Raw. Organic. Non-GMO. Words that I love. This is what I now slather on myself and my family. They happily oblige by the way. Which was not always the case when applying eczema steroid creams that burn on scratches.
- 1 cup raw, organic Shea butter
- 1/2 cup organic cold pressed coconut oil
- 1/2 cup olive oil
- In a double boiler, melt the Shea and coconut oil
- Once fully melted, set aside and let sit for 30 minutes
- Add in the olive oil and stir. At this point you could add 5-10 drops of a skin friendly essential oil. After that, place the bowl in the freezer for about 25 minutes
- Scrape down the sides and the bottom, so it’s all loose in the bowl. Otherwise your mixer may not fully combine ALL the ingredients.
- Whip that bad boy with a stand or hand mixer until fluffy and white. Mine looked like beautiful, freshly whipped cream.
Scrape out every speck and spatter or your lovely mixture and slap it into an air-tight container. I used a good ole’ plastic one. You could totally use a glass jar. I’m packaging these little beauties into clean baby food jars for Christmas gifts! It doesn’t seem like a lot of uses in that little jar, but believe me, a little goes a long way. This seriously melts into your skin instantly. It liquifies immedietly. I’m POSITIVE you will never be buying store bought lotion again.
First foods, not rice cereal. November 17, 2013
After many years of research and reading the FDA’s spread sheets of information I feel like I have made a good decision about “infant cereal”. Not only is it a non-nutritive food, the “iron enriching” they put in it isn’t even absorbed by their bodies almost at all. While it has been used as a first food for countless years I just don’t believe it’s a good first food. Popularity doesn’t equal nutrition. Not to mention, like many other “white” foods almost immediately after being consumed it becomes straight sugar in the stomach. If you wouldn’t feed your baby a spoonful of white refined sugar why give them white refined rice cereal? When an adult eats “white” refined foods the same thing happens. I can hear many people opposing me, saying they have “given it to their children and they turned out just fine”. Well, we also eat millions of pounds of fast food each year and that isn’t exactly an excellent nutrition choice. There is a reason we are an obese nation. Why aren’t we looking at the first foods as a preventive of this? An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. Breastfeeding can lower your baby’s (and mothers!) risk of childhood and adult onset diabetes, obesity, and cancers. Before formula and rice cereal, there was breast milk and whole foods. Popularity doesn’t equal nutrition. I choose bananas, beans, avocados, pumpkin, carrots, etc for our babies. Just saying. As always my opinion is mine and everyone is entitled to a different one.